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i don't really know what this post is going to be about, so let's just see what happens whilst i am writing this thing..
so i was thinking before, while reading matt's stupid chain letter (the love one that we've ALL seen waaaayy too many times, you know, the one that says all that stuff about why guys love girls, and what a kiss wherever means and all? yeah that oneT__T)
and i was thinking
how do you actually know if someone really loves you or not?
i mean, yeah there are all sorts of love, and here's what i think. here's how you know if they love you
**note: this is about LOVE guys, not making inferences abuot whether someone likes you or not. this is LOVE. this is the real thing that is felt by every part of the person's body, not just lust..'kay?

so the way i see it is, if the person is showing almost all of these, then they really do love you:
-they'll give up what they are doing to talk to you when you need their support
-if they've arranged to do something for you, go to something with you, and something fairly important comes up, they'll compromise with you rather than just letting you down
-if they DO miss something because there's just no way they can be in two places at once, they'll try to make up for it in more ways than one
-their one weakness is you
-they've cried to you before, either just TO you, OVER you, or ...or because you said something sweet that touched them
-they're not scared to show you what they're feeling, whether it be depression, happiness or extreme hyperactivity =D
-they share all of their hopes and dreams (no matter how corny) with you
-they try using pick up lines on you, although they know that you're theirs already
-they chased you and had to actually put effort into winning you over
-they put effort into the relationship
-they spare the time and effort and whatever it takes to make you happy, even in times when others would be like pssh who cares i've already got them
-they make up ridiculously lame excuses to call/msg/see you, even when you've just spent the last three days together
-they listen you talk about nothing
-they let you vent and they'll help you out
-they'll hurt you for the better...ie, they'll make you see the truth even if it makes you cry
-they'll go out of their way to ensure your happiness and wellbeing
-they will defend you and protect you in any situation, even when you are at fault
-they accept you as you are and don't expect you to change for them
-they help you with work, and ask for your help
-they're confident around you
-they're natural around you, they can be a dick to you, but accept it beacuse that may be who they are and they're just showing you that they're not afraid to show their true colours around you. accept it or leave it.
-they're not ashamed of you
-they'll do anything to make your dreams come true (siiigh a walk to remember...)
-they don't compare you to other people
-they're willing to drive you all around adelaide just for you to be with them while they do what they have to around the place
-they RESPECT you
-they can make you laugh uncontrollably
-they help you to see sense when you're lost and confused
-they have singing/screaming contests with you
-they never give up in trying to win you over
-they never stop putting effort into the relationship
-they can be trusted with every little thing you tell them

guys that's a really long list
but just another note from me?
love is not materialistic
it's better (in my opinion) to have a bf who has never given you anything, or jsut something small, or a few little thinsg and have a really good relationshipw ith them
than to have a bf who buys you the world. who uses their power to give you whateve ryou want yet you are not as close to him as yo ushould be
think about it guys
love is not about lust
or about money
it's about
actual love and intimacy (NOT sexaully) and trust.
intimacy being closeness mentally and being able to talk to them about eveyrhting. not PHYSICALLY intimate >__>
but yeah

to me, that's hwo you tell if someone loves you.
=D

**note: everyon'es different, so not many can fill ALL of those criteria without twisting words or the truth ;)